Tuesday, December 06, 2005Lose your step, fall out of grace - Throwing Stones
I've been pushed. She poked until she found the button. I lost it. At times I wonder if people enjoy it. I so seldom lose my temper. Do people push just to see when, why it will happen? When it does you will probably lose. And I will feel remorse. Whether you deserved it or not, it is not the way I want to behave. So I guess I lose afterall.
posted by Helen at 8:40 PM
13 Comments:
Helen, there's lots of wisdom in these words of yours
Everyone loses it once in a while. The key is to accept it (like you have) and work to minimize it (which I'm sure you will).
It may not be the way you want to behave, but every now and then it's the way you have to behave to maintain your sanity. Try not to be remorseful. You're only human.
great song-
hope all is well helen ;)
if you plant ice...
-ben
Some people really enjoy pushing buttons to get a rise out of people. Personally, I hate it when they do that. But then I wonder if my I am not as tolerant as I used to be...
You can only do what you can do. Don't be hard on yourself for it.
There are people who push buttons just for the drama of it all. I think it has a lot more to do with the button pusher than the pushee, as it were.
Hope it blows over quickly, and your button pusher finds a more positive way to meet his/her needs.
How can you lose when insight is gained? You still have some anger residing inside somewhere? Join the human race!
I am the beneficiary of a recent ugly scene in which I saw that I still had anger, felt the need to let it go and felt peace... and, every day I choose no anger.
But, people make it so hard to love them all, don't they? haha!
You're full of Grace, my friend,
Robin
I'm like you Helen, I get pushed too far & I blow. Then later, I end up feeling bad for what I said.
A question though: when you feel remorse for what you said, is it because it was a false statement? Or it's true, but you just shouldn't have said it?
I think the latter is probably truer for me.
As long as you learn from it, you don't lose. No way, Jose
Pushing buttons:
Remember the other person is playing a role as well. Some people just need to be on the receiving end of some anger, for whatever reason. I just hate it when I let myself be a tool to this end. Seems so unproductive.
Then again, a lot of the time I am probably entertaining when motivated by anger. I can fight my way out of a corner and it is probably a joy to behold. I just wish more folks would engage me for my loving side, as that is a joyous thing as well.
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What a words of wisdom! Most of the time I like being pushed than being pulled down.
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Some people seem to like pushing other's buttons. I'm not quite sure why, but it often seems like an attention-getting behavior. Maybe they don't know how to relate to others unless they find some way to get under their skin. But, if they can't get under someone's skin, they will usually give up eventually (and probably find someone else to bother!).
"Do people push just to see when, why it will happen?"
Yes, they do. I'm going through this right now. And yeah, everyone loses.
You are a little corner of peace and sanity in the blogosphere Helen, and I appreciate it.
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