Friday, March 24, 2006Let your life proceed by its own designs - Cassidy
There are alot of lives I'll never have. Even more that I'll never want. I am amazed at the extent people will go to hurt others, doing so with purpose. It makes me thrash back. And in that moment, I become that person. Hating myself. I wonder if they hate themselves. I have mixed emotions of anger and pity. Both uncomfortable, both wrong, both human. For this I do not apologize. No apology whatsoever. Absolutely not.
posted by Helen at 9:25 PM
3 Comments:
I don't understand a lot of things about people.
Anger and pity.
I expect you mean self-pity.
I don't believe it is wrong to have pity for others, and that is why I expect maybe you meant self-pity. I think self-pity is a useless emotion that restricts personal growth.
As far as anger goes, you probably won't be surprised to find that I think anger is a very useful emotion. NOT destructive anger. But anger has its place. It can be a warning sign to others that their behavior has reached an unacceptable point and help to prevent a potentially destructive situation.
I disagree with people who teach their children to never show anger. I think it is detrimental to their future well-being in interacting with others, as well as detrimental to their physical well-being.
Mild anger is increasingly the way in which I must deal with some business relationships, and not because I choose to. Rather, because people are continually pushing the envelope in trying to get over on you. I don't know if this is a holdover from the '80's "corporate raider" mentality prevalent in business dealings or if it has always been like this. But rather than take someone else's shit on and let it eat me up inside, I will lash back and put it back on them. If they are the instigator, they can deal with the resultant fallout, or learn as I did, to modify their behavior and deal fair and square with people from the start.
We are not reasponsible for our feelings, but we are responsible for our actions.
I loved the last line of what mark said "we are not responsible for our feelings, but we are responsible for our actions. Recently I've been feeling a lot of hate and negative emotion and tried not to let it out, but it eventually gets out. My temporary writters block is not helping so I pray God will just let me feel and not act.
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