Thursday, June 30, 2005

Maybe it's my destiny to love what others hate - Walker After Midnight

I've worked long and hard to forgive my estranged husband. Understand? Somewhat, but that is not my job really. I feel like some of my family members actually hate him. This of course, is for the pain he has caused. I feel responsible for this hate. But I know, in the end, they must find their own way to forgive him. I only pray that they find it soon and my attitude towards the situation permeates.

11 Comments:

Blogger -ms jumbled mind- said...

it's difficult to forgive... but that's what God asks from us.. I face the same problem with people who hurt me in the past..and I am still trying to forgive..AND forget..

9:49 PM  
Blogger M.R. said...

Forgiveness is indeed quite difficult but in the long run it's the only way to achieve peace of mind and ultimate closure.

12:10 AM  
Blogger Random Personae said...

I don't understand. Why forgive when you can forget?

12:30 AM  
Blogger -ms jumbled mind- said...

i think it's two different things. forgetting without forgiveness is just going to cause bittnerness and honestly i think it's quite impossible to forget without forgiving, as the hurt would still be there

12:49 AM  
Blogger Janet said...

I've already forgiven him. I see that you are on your way back to having a happy full life again and I think that has a lot to do with my forgiveness. No one wants to see their family member hurting. Seeing you hurt is especially hard for me. You have been through enough in your life.
Love ya!

6:58 AM  
Blogger Veracity said...

I've got the same struggle myself... Forgiveness just can't be forced. Perhaps time will guide the natural flow of the heart...

9:17 AM  
Blogger Alice: In Wonderland or Not said...

I hope they do as well for their sake as hate takes way too much energy.

3:12 PM  
Blogger Dovely said...

Jesus said that "Love" was the most important of the commandments. Important yes, but I agree it is difficult to show love to someone who has hurt you so badly. The fact that you have forgiven the EX is very commendable. Hate is such an evil thing and it can eat you alive if you let it.

Peace~

5:58 PM  
Anonymous uao said...

Long ago, I learned holding grudges was bad for my health. So I try to forgive things out of selfish reasons: I enjoy my piece of mind.

As for understanding; that's optional. It's worth a try, since understanding others helps me to understand myself. But some things are just to wacked out to understand.

4:31 PM  
Anonymous SilverMoon said...

I agree w/ Silk about "forgiveness can't be forced." Wish the answer was in your box of rain. Best of luck. This is tough. (Did you quote Walker from his blog?)
SilverMoon(aka GEL)I opened another blog and forgot who I told.

8:26 AM  
Blogger Jeff said...

No, I understand... it never goes away... I hope you are able to heal.

9:05 PM  

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